New Beginnings With Gina http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com Dedicated to New Beginnings After Cancer Fri, 21 Apr 2017 15:58:46 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.5 65734126 Why am I a survivorship coach? What is a survivorship coach? http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/survivorship-coach-survivorship-coach/ Mon, 23 Jan 2017 13:53:30 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1506 The post Why am I a survivorship coach? What is a survivorship coach? appeared first on New Beginnings With Gina.

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Surprise, surprise, I don’t only coach survivors and caregivers, I also coach women in transition. I have been through many transitions in my life, some paralyzing ones, so I know the drill even though my drill is not yours.  Coaching is all about establishing a confidential relationship with the client to create a safe environment for exploration on how the client can find their own answers to their own life challenges. So why did I choose survivorship as my niche? I am a certified life coach and have additional training in wellbeing and I can literally coach anyone if the relationship is a fit.

All my transitions and life challenges helped shape the person who I am today, but my cancer experience is the event that has brought the most awareness to my life. I repeat the mantra that when I was diagnosed with cancer, “I got hard wired for change”. It was only at that time that I realized that I had to go within and face the hurt and the loss. It was a time for me to start living by my own values, rules and beliefs and not those imposed on me as a child. It was a time for letting go and finding myself.

You see, no one tells us that we have a choice to change. Most of us are so wrapped up in doing things the way that we always have, that we never really look at who we want to be.

One of the reasons I love coaching survivors is because it is my passion and runs very deep for me, having lost my mother to ovarian cancer and being a survivor myself. The other and most important for me is because working with survivors goes well beyond the cancer experience. So yes, I do coach my clients on how to deal with the overwhelm of a diagnosis and all the emotions that go with it. I help them sort out their feelings to find out what is fact and what is just a story they are creating in their minds (we all do it). I also help them open their awareness and realize that they have choices and options and are not victim to or defined by their diagnosis. I help empower them. I also help them through and after treatment, helping them find their way to making the best choices for themselves and how they want to move forward in living their lives, no matter what that time frame may be. It is all about awareness, perspective, choices, options and actions.

However, my coaching goes well beyond the cancer experience. Cancer does not define us, it is a mere experience in our lives and it touches on so many areas that this can be a time to reassess your life and rewrite your story.

Cancer implodes on all areas of our lives. It effects how we love and care for ourselves, it effects our relationships, it effects how we choose to show up on a daily basis, it effects our career choices and how we want to live or not live in that space and set up steps for even more change. It effects who we are at our core (in our hearts) and how we want to move ahead with less stress and a feeling of flow, not force.

There are so many things to consider when faced with a cancer diagnosis, treatment or any life transition.

  • How am I showing up?
  • What is my level of awareness?
  • Have I gotten to a place of self-acceptance?
  • Am I making conscious choices?
  • What is my energy level?
  • What is influencing my energy?
  • In what ways, can I make changes that better serve me?
  • How can I reduce all of the stress in my life?

Coaching is about asking empowering questions to take us out of the box and to a place where we can think as if we are in a helicopter looking down at the situation to make the best choice for us, not the choice or choices for others.

If any of this resonates with you and you want to take a deeper dive into exploring your current challenge, reach out to me at gina@newbeginningswithgina.com or go to my website www.newbeginningswithgina.com and fill out a contact form.

When you change your thoughts, you can change your life. Coaching is an approach that creates a safe environment for coach and client to explore what your current challenge is and how you can open the door to shift into a higher energy levels, which result in building and healing.

I would love to offer a complimentary coaching session to you to show you the benefits of coaching and how it can work for you.  Xo Gina

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Making changes after cancer diagnosis. If not now, when? http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/changes-after-cancer-diagnosis/ Sun, 08 Jan 2017 18:16:09 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1500 The post Making changes after cancer diagnosis. If not now, when? appeared first on New Beginnings With Gina.

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Have you ever asked yourself this question?

 

Common questions might sound something like:

If not now, when will I –

  • go on that diet?
  • start that fitness program?
  • start implementing better habits for my health and wellbeing?
  • make that change of career I have always wanted?
  • finally leave the relationship that isn’t serving me?
  • start taking care of me?

Most of us have goals that we want to achieve, dreams we want to realize, but what holds us back from taking action and moving toward them? Most of the time it is fear or an old belief that limits you.

When I was diagnosed with cancer, I knew I wanted to make changes in my life. Some of these changes included, reducing stress, not feeling like I had to be in control of everything and not always feeling like I had to please others before I pleased myself.

How many times do you make a decision based on “what other people might think?” vs what it is that you really want or need in that situation?

One of my biggest “if not now, when?” moments was about 2 years after my breast cancer diagnosis. I had been working in Manhattan for nearly 30 years and had made a lot of changes in my life. For the last 12 years, I had been working at home 2 days a week and in Manhattan 3 days a week.  This fit in perfect with actions that I had taken to reduce stress in my life, but now I was faced with a different situation. My boss of almost 30 years was closing shop and I had to consider where I wanted to take my career. My boss had mentioned something about continuing to support him once the office was closed its doors, yet I clung to safety.  I immediately put my resume out there to search for a new position.

After interviewing a bit, I took a position with a very nice salary and great medical benefits, but something didn’t seem right to me. A few days after taking the position where I would have no flexibility and would put me in Manhattan 5 days a week from 5am to 7pm easily with travel, I asked myself a few questions.

One of the questions I asked myself was: “If not, now when Gina?” I had always wanted to start my own business, but still I was reverting to safety? Why? Why? Why? This was the perfect opportunity for change! Some of the answers to those whys where because my beliefs at the time were limited and my head was telling me: “You can’t be secure in a career unless you are collecting a paycheck from someone else and you have good medical benefits.” Another answer to the whys was fear. What if I failed? What if I couldn’t make a living? What would others think of me? What would I think of myself?

It took a lot of digging deep, knowing post cancer I had promised myself a different life, and now I was finally holding myself accountable to that.  Had it not been for my coach training, I probably would have stayed with that offer and been miserable and reverted to a life of stress and chaos.

Ultimately, after much thought and what I thought would be embarrassment of turning the offer down, I decided to make a conscious choice and I decided to take a risk. I then told myself: “If you don’t take this risk now, you will always regret it.” I also told myself that if I did fail (and it wouldn’t be a fail, it would be an exploration) I could always go back to safe and secure a 9 – 5 job working for someone else.

Before I could take this action, I had to get to a place where I was confident with who I was and what I could do and to be fearless in taking these steps.

I am happy to say that that it has been over 3 years since I made the decision to launch 2 businesses at the same time (a coaching business and a legal business) and I haven’t had to take one look or step back to safety, in fact I have been more successful than I ever thought was possible.

What have you been wanting to do for a long time and either your fears or some limiting belief or an assumption has been holding you back from pursuing what you truly desire?

If you are feeling stuck and want to explore in a confidential environment, reach out to me at gina@newbeginningswithgina.com or go to my website www.newbeginningswithgina.com and fill out a contact form.

When you change your thoughts, you can change your life. Coaching is an approach that creates a safe environment for coach and client to explore what your current challenge is and how you can open the door to shift into a higher energy levels, which results in building and healing energy and gets you into action mode.

I would love to set up a free discover session with you to you to show you the benefits of coaching and how it can work for you.

If not now, when?

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Can creating boundaries add to your overall wellbeing? http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/creating-boundaries-wellbeing/ Sun, 08 Jan 2017 11:55:16 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1485 Urban Dictionary’s definition of boundaries is:  “something that was invented to keep people away when you are sad, mad or just want to be alone.” A general definition is: “anything that marks a limit”. Psychologically, these limits can define a person’s dignity and can be a distinction between behavior that creates or protects you from […]

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Urban Dictionary’s definition of boundaries is:  “something that was invented to keep people away when you are sad, mad or just want to be alone.” A general definition is: “anything that marks a limit”.

Psychologically, these limits can define a person’s dignity and can be a distinction between behavior that creates or protects you from emotional harm. The first step in creating a boundary is to remember the oxygen mask analogy. You can’t take care of anyone else, until you take care of yourself first. The second step is to figure out if creating a boundary is coming from a place of love or fear? Creating boundaries out of fear can be unhealthy, this might look something like: keeping the peace, pleasing others, or simply being nice. A boundary created from a place of love would look more like caring for yourself and your needs first before others. Self-love is a necessity and critical in creating healthy boundaries.

With all of this said, ask yourself the following questions:

  • What does creating boundaries mean for you?
  • Could creating boundaries change your relationships for the better or worse?
  • What could creating a boundary protect you from?
  • What are your concerns around creating a boundary?
  • What will be different when you start creating boundaries?
  • Can you decipher when you are creating a boundary from fear or from a place of love?
  • What is different for you when your boundaries come from a place of fear vs a place of love?

Creating boundaries can be the first step in creating a healthier you.

  • What is one step that you can take today to set a healthy boundary?
  • What would it feel like if you asked people for what you need?
  • In what special circumstances might you allow a boundary to be broken?
  • What is a non-negotiable for you if one of your boundaries is being broken?

If any of this resonates with you and you want to take a deeper dive into exploring how your boundaries are working for or against you, reach out to me at gina@newbeginningswithgina.com or go to my website www.newbeginningswithgina.com and fill out a contact form.

When you change your thoughts, you can change your life. Coaching is an approach that creates a safe environment for coach and client to explore what your current challenge is and how you can open the door to shift into a higher energy levels, which result in building and healing.

I would love to offer a complimentary (discovery) coaching session to you to show you the benefits of coaching and how it can work for you.

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Depression and the Holidays…. http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/depression-and-the-holidays/ Mon, 19 Dec 2016 16:46:55 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1477 If you are depressed and it is holiday time you some of the following questions may be coming to mind: How do I get out of this? Why am I feeling this way? It’s the holidays, I am supposed to be feeling happy? What are people going to think of me when they see that […]

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If you are depressed and it is holiday time you some of the following questions may be coming to mind:

  • How do I get out of this?
  • Why am I feeling this way? It’s the holidays, I am supposed to be feeling happy?
  • What are people going to think of me when they see that I am not myself?

These thoughts are heavy and draining and self-defeating. I know what it is like to be severely depressed during the holidays. I remember either staring into space and wondering when these feelings would pass, would I ever come out of it and being in a place where I couldn’t be in the now and my thoughts were firing constantly and all I wanted to do was crawl up in a ball and hide.

I get it. The natural human instinct is to fight these feelings and quickly overcome them and make things right again. It doesn’t work like this. There is no magic bullet in fighting depression.

Instead of looking for a magical way out, why not accept where you in this place and time and start asking yourself more powerful questions like:

  • What is causing me to feel this way?
  • What is off in my life?
  • How have I been living that is not fully aligned with who I am at my core?
  • How can I get help?
  • Who can I talk to?
  • What am I not saying out loud to myself that is real?
  • In what ways are my mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, environmental or social energy drained?
  • Where are my needs not being met?
  • Where am I overdoing it in life?
  • Where might I want to let go of control?
  • What relationships am in in that are healing? Which ones are draining?
  • How am I not taking care of me?

These are just some questions you might want to start to look at to figure out what is really going on underneath the depression. Yes, it sucks to be in this place over the holidays, but why not look at this as a time for learning? There is a purpose in what you are experiencing and it is up to you to find the answers for yourself.

When we get depressed over the holidays my feeling is sometimes we make it worse because we are so caught up in what others will think or so stuck in self judgment that we circle further down that rabbit hole.

Why not take this time to just be who you are and where you are? Accept it and learn a lesson from it. What are you learning about yourself from this experience and how can you adjust and evolve from what you are experiencing.  Take this time to recreate your life and start moving in the direction that suits you. There is never a finish line. Life is not linear. It is not about winning the race it is how we show up while we are running that race and how we can improve on the next race we run.

Be kind to yourself during the holidays season. Do what is right for you, not for others. When you start listening to your own voice, that is when change will happen.

Think about it. If it weren’t for your life experiences, you wouldn’t be who you are today. Own it and start creating the life that you fully want to live.

I don’t have a magic bullet for you. I don’t have your answers, you have your answers and will only gain them with the help and support of others, including professionals when you may need them.

Life is all about being committed and valuing yourself. Now, what is one step that you can take today to help move you from where you are right now to where you want to be?

If any of this resonates with you and you want to take a deeper dive into exploring your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, reach out to me at gina@newbeginningswithgina.com or go to my website www.newbeginningswithgina.com and fill out a contact form.

When you change your thoughts, you can change your life. Coaching is an approach that creates a safe environment for coach and client to explore what your current challenge is and how you can open the door to shift into a higher energy levels, which result in building and healing.

I would love to offer a complimentary (discovery) coaching session to you to show you the benefits of coaching and how it works.

Xo Gina

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Creating New Beginnings from Life’s Challenges http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/creating-new-beginnings-lifes-challenges/ Sat, 22 Oct 2016 22:55:47 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1467   Life is all about the challenges that we face and it is up to us to dig deep to figure out what their purpose is for each one of us. There as a principal that I learned in my coach training and it goes like this: “Each moment describes who you are and where […]

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Life is all about the challenges that we face and it is up to us to dig deep to figure out what their purpose is for each one of us.

There as a principal that I learned in my coach training and it goes like this: “Each moment describes who you are and where you want to be”. This can mean different things for each one of us. For me this principal means that that I can show up every day exactly the way I choose and that each day is an opportunity for awareness, growth and change.

I have had many life challenges in my life, but my cancer diagnosis was a game changer for me! I always tell people that when I was diagnosed, I felt like I got hit by a bolt of lightning and got hard-wired for change. While it was most certainly about ridding the cancer from my body and going through surgeries and treatments, I found the real purpose in this challenge for me was about creating well-being in all areas of my life.

The entire experience allowed me the opportunity to rebuild my life with less stress and an increased energy. It finally allowed me the space to let go of all of the old rules in my life and to finally live by my own rules.

I have found that most of the time when you face a fear or challenge in your life and internal blocks come up and we get stuck, that is when it is time to get up close and personal with those fears and blocks to find the answers. All we do when we don’t face the fear or we ignore the block is to amplify it in our minds and continue telling ourselves the same story over and over again and so the pattern remains.

One of the things that I came up with to face my fears and blocks was the following mantra because I tend to know exactly where I get stuck and why.  I repeat this mantra to myself over and over in such times until it finally resonates with me: “I can do this and noone can tell me that I can’t, not even me!”

If you want to create a shift in the moment when you are feeling stuck, go deep and try to figure out what the pattern is that holds you back, and come up with your own mantra that speaks directly to your fear or your current challenge. When you free that block or fear, you are allowing your inner drive to be fueled and then able to step into anabolic energy.

When we get stuck we can make things so much more complicated than we need to.

When things get complicated, take a pause and think of the 3 C’s (Clarity, Confidence and Commitment) for getting through life’s challenges:

CLARITY – When we face fear we usually want to fight it or run from it. My suggestion is to run toward it, because whatever is causing that fear or block inside of you is sending you a message, and it is calling you to listen up and gain clarity around it.

CONFIDENCE – When I say confidence I mean to really believe in yourself, and that may mean that you have to be counterintuitive. In other words, don’t follow the norm or what everyone else would do in the situation and don’t think about the impact on others, put your needs first. Confidence is an inside job. Follow your heart and your intuition. You are the only one that has the answers and following your heart is the only thing that will bring you closer to confidence.

COMMITMENT – Stay committed, EVEN WHEN YOU ARE FEELING YOU’RE MOST VULNERABLE! Never give up and don’t lose sight of your goals. Whatever it is that drives you from the inside, find that source or strength at your core and just keep going! Stay committed and true to yourself.

To create new beginnings, we must go deep and challenge our core beliefs to get to the next level.

In doing so and in creating an abundant mentality, we must:

  • Face our fears or blocks and realize that they are sending us a message; (don’t ignore the signs). Life is to be lived with eyes wide open even when it is painful;
  • Remain aware of our thoughts to figure out if they are true or a story we are making up in our head;
  • Stay focused on what is in our control, and what is not;
  • Accept that life is about enjoying the journey and is not a linear process; and
  • Finally, stay committed, true to your heart and trust your intuition.

It is about consciously choosing how we want to show up during these challenges and figuring out what will bring us closer to our goals.

The more challenges that we experience, the better shaped we will be to show up and face new challenges.

Get Clear, Be Confident, and Stay Committed!

If you are ready to start creating your own new beginnings, and don’t know where to get started or how to get from one place to the next, email me at gina@newbeginningswithgina.com so that we can schedule a complimentary discovery session to explore if coaching is the right modality to create forward movement in your life.

 

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An open letter to my mom, 15 years later… http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/open-letter-mom-15-years-later-2/ Sat, 01 Oct 2016 11:39:37 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1448 Dear Mom, Remembering you on this day. October 7th will be the 15th Anniversary of your passing and October 10th your beautiful granddaughter will be 15. I look back at the heartache and beauty of 15 years ago. I will never forget the days when your oncologist spoke the words to me that he thought […]

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Dear Mom,

Remembering you on this day. October 7th will be the 15th Anniversary of your passing and October 10th your beautiful granddaughter will be 15. I look back at the heartache and beauty of 15 years ago.

I will never forget the days when your oncologist spoke the words to me that he thought you had two weeks left with us. The next day I went to my gynecologist and he spoke the words to me that I would be induced into labor in two weeks. Could I really be hearing these words? It was so surreal. How could this all be happening at the same time? I was at the pinnacle of my life and losing my best friend and delivering my first born child all in the same time and space…

I will never forget how selfless you were during your treatment, even taking time out to volunteer at a nursing home to care for others, when you yourself could have received.

I will never forget your last days walking at the beach. You were jaundice and getting strange looks from others. I couldn’t believe how you simply walked in the breeze and accepted who you were at that very moment in time. Little did I know this was the path to me learning how to be non-judgmental.

I will never forget the day I walked into the hospital to see you just before you going into hospice and you asked me if I had the baby and me, being stunned and not knowing what to say as you were in and out of consciousness and I blurted the words out: “Yes I did.” You knew that wasn’t the truth and got mad at me. Mom, I would have done anything to make you happy in your last days, I just didn’t know what to do. It breaks my heart. I wanted to give to you like you gave to others on a consistent basis.

I will never forget your last days in hospice when you could barely speak and the first words out of your mouth on your nurse arriving were: “How are you doing today?” So surreal, but simply you.

I will never forget being in the hospital just prior to giving birth to Samantha, thinking about what was waiting for me when I left that hospital with my new baby.

Mom, I don’t know what happened but I remember dropping Samantha in her basinet and going directly to the funeral home to be with others to say their final good byes to you. I thought I was fine, but something happened to me when I left you at the cemetery the next day. I was physically present, but mentally absent for an entire year.

This period of my life was excruciating. I always knew what direction I would go in, but now I didn’t know if I should grieve for the loss of my mother or celebrate the birth of my daughter. I was numb and couldn’t feel anything. I was in a grief induced post-partum depression.

I remember Chris asking my doctors, “Will I ever get my wife back?” and me thinking to myself: “Will I ever get my life back?”

I remember thinking to myself: “If I could just talk to someone who has lost their mother and given birth to a child within days, I might feel a sense of connection to bring me back to reality.” I never found that person, yet now I help others connect.

Eventually and over time, I did get my life back. With the help of professionals in my corner, the only thing I knew to hold onto was my Faith and I owe that to you mom. Without Faith, I have nothing. You instilled a personal Faith in me that will always fuel my inner drive and will get me through any life challenge I face.

Mom, there was a purpose in the circumstances surrounding your passing and Samantha’s birth and that is exactly what solidified the past, present and future for me, having the knowing that I could always create New Beginnings in my life. It’s all about having Faith, patience and trusting the process.

I love you mom and I thank you for all the gifts that you have provided to me over the last 15 years. You cannot put a price tag on growth and evolution.

Xo Gina

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What is the meaning behind grief and loss for you? http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/meaning-behind-grief-loss/ Thu, 22 Sep 2016 10:27:12 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1429 Grief and loss can be two of the most painful and powerful emotions for humans. When we are facing loss we try to hold on so tight to what it is that we think we are losing that we lose sight of what is next or what could be next. I have experienced many losses […]

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Grief and loss can be two of the most painful and powerful emotions for humans. When we are facing loss we try to hold on so tight to what it is that we think we are losing that we lose sight of what is next or what could be next.

I have experienced many losses in my life and continue to experience loss daily as I shed the old layers of who Gina is, breaking open and coming to a place of my true essence.

I experienced the loss of what I call my “starter husband” early on in my adult life. This was an excruciating and painful place for me to walk through. I experienced debilitating depression and anxiety during this time and my life. There was a lot of grief and loss felt for me, but it brought so much opportunity for me. It brought me to a place of confidence in me that I never knew existed. It brought me to a place of freedom where I learned to turn the beauty that existed on the inside of me to a place where is shined on the outside.  It was only when I let go of holding on so tight to what I thought I wanted that I began to find what it was that I really wanted – a feeling of freedom and independence that had existed in me all the time, yet something I had shoved down inside of myself because I didn’t believe in me.

Again, loss hit me when I lost my mother and gave birth to my daughter within 3 days. For an entire year I was functioning physically, but lost mentally not knowing which way to turn next. The opportunity here was to shed the symbiotic and codependent relationship that I had with my mom and certain family members and continue to evolve and walk confidently as the Gina I was born to be, not the Gina others thought I was. This experience allowed me to turn all of my negative beliefs upside down and to look for the opportunity in every loss I faced.

Breast cancer was another loss. Here there was a loss of my breasts and a loss of the old Gina, the Gina that I had been so hard trying to create up unit this point in my life.  The opportunity here was that I made a conscious choice to leave even more from the past behind. I let go of a lot of the stress in my life, a lot of the control, and a lot of the doing that I “thought” I was supposed to accomplish. As I recreated my body and let go of a lot of my old thoughts and beliefs, I grew more confidence and I found my Who. My Who being the greatest and deepest part of my self, the parts and pieces of me that existed as a child long before society and my parents imposed the beliefs they thought would shape me into who I would become. I finally started to realize that I had to experience life and these losses and challenging life moments to find my true self.

Another loss as I left my job in Manhattan of 28 years. This brought a lot of emotion up for me and holding on tight. The opportunity for me was to walk through fear and create my own businesses, knowing that if I didn’t succeed I could always go back to safe. The outcome was that I didn’t go “have to” go back to safe. I could sustain myself on my own creating my own businesses. It was all about taking a risk and believing in myself.

We never know what is on the other side of fear, loss or change until we walk through all of the emotions and make a choice to either remain in safety or stay stuck in fear, grief and loss, or walk into uncertainty without attachment to the outcome.

There are certain mornings that I rise and face fear, grief and loss. I now chose to look at it as excitement and an experience for growth. I am peeling the onion, shedding the layers, leaving the old me behind and continually creating the new me so that I can be happy, fulfilled and at peace with myself. I am learning the more I love myself, the more I can be in service to others.

Grief and loss and suck, but when you walk through the muck and mud and experience all of the thoughts, feelings and emotions that go with it, creation and freedom is waiting for you on the other side.

In what ways can you turn your grief and losses into opportunities? Take a look back at where you have come from. Look at the challenges you have faced. How can you sculpt all of these experiences into creating your best self?

If any of this resonates with you and you want to become the creator in your own life moving forward, feel free to email me with any questions, concerns or comments at: gina@newbeginningswithgina.com. In addition, please take a peak at my website: www.newbeginningswithgina.com for my other blog posts, who I am and what I do in terms of coaching others with the goal of creating New Beginnings in Life.

I would love to hear from you and get to know you on a more intimate level and discuss how coaching can create sustainable change in your life.

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Four years ago today…cancer brought me to a place of freedom… http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/four-years-ago-todaybrought-place-freedom/ Wed, 07 Sep 2016 09:27:50 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1420 Four years ago today I dropped my children off at their first day of school, ages 10 and 8. I left them in the care of friends, teachers and administrators and walked into Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center to have the first of many surgeries to rid myself of cancer. I learned so much about […]

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Four years ago today I dropped my children off at their first day of school, ages 10 and 8. I left them in the care of friends, teachers and administrators and walked into Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center to have the first of many surgeries to rid myself of cancer.

I learned so much about myself in this process. I learned that I could give up control to others, that I could put myself first and that stress and living on a hamster wheel wasn’t the life I wanted to live.

It took me years of personal development to get to this point, and finally it all came together for me.

It took this moment in time for me to awaken to the fact that:

-Others would take care of my children in the same way that I could, in some ways even better;

-Being, not doing (and doing it all my way) was not the way to live; and

-Putting my needs ahead of others was the healthiest thing I could do for me, my family and my children to set an example for wellbeing in their own lives. Finally, I realized that pleasing myself and not pleasing others first (despite their non-agreement or reaction) was the way to go!

Taking care of you first is not selfish, it is called self-preservation.

I encourage you to look back on your timeline today. What lessons has life taught you about you?

In what ways can you open yourself up to living in a space of freedom vs boredom?

This is probably one the shortest blog posts I have written, and yet one of the most profound.

Live each day and live it on purpose!  Live with a sense of gratitude and fulfillment every day! Xo Gina

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How to become your own patient advocate… http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/become-best-advocate/ Sat, 06 Aug 2016 21:05:56 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1416   What are some ways you can be your own best patient advocate?   Become your own activist. You are the one in control of your health, you are the cause, not at the effect of it. Take notes at all of your appointments. Don’t fearful of asking your doctors questions. They are human beings […]

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What are some ways you can be your own best patient advocate?

 

  • Become your own activist. You are the one in control of your health, you are the cause, not at the effect of it. Take notes at all of your appointments. Don’t fearful of asking your doctors questions. They are human beings just like you are. The more questions you ask, the more information you will gather, the better they will be able to serve you.
  • Get a second opinion. Not only is the right course of treatment and what other doctors have to add to how your cancer can be treated, you want to have the right relationship with your doctors. Probe to find the right doctors who will be able to provide the treatment that is in alignment with your goals for your overall well-being.
  • Get Support. Getting support is crucial in terms of survivorship! Create a wall of support to surround you. Odds are you are probably a giver and you may find it hard to receive at this time. The bottom line is that friends, family and colleagues will want to support you in any way that they can. Communicate effectively to indicate exactly what it is that you need, whether it be emotional support or having someone pick up groceries for you. If you need further emotional support, join a support group, look for a therapist, counselor or a cancer survivorship coach to guide you throughout your cancer experience.
  • Exercise. Exercise and remain active if you can, but check with your doctors first. Research shows that exercise is linked to the prevention of cancer recurrence.
  • Smile! Smile, laugh and maintain your sense of humor. You will have good days and not so good days, but better days happen when you are able to anchor yourself into positive moments of accomplishment and laughter is one of the best medicines on the planet, especially when we can laugh at ourselves.

 

If you would like more information on how you can be your own best advocate and be the creator in your life moving forward, please visit my website: www.newbeginningswithgina.com for my other blog posts, who I am and what I do in terms of coaching others with the goal of creating New Beginnings After Cancer. Feel free to email me with any questions, concerns or comments at: gina@newbeginningswithgina.com.

I would love to hear from you and get to know you on a more intimate level and discuss how coaching can create sustainable change in your life. xo Gina

 

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Do you believe that everything in life has a purpose? http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/believe-everything-life-purpose/ Sat, 30 Jul 2016 11:42:03 +0000 http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/?p=1408 It can be said that when you look at life as everything having a reason, you can ask yourself why these life events happened, but when you look at life as everything having a purpose, you learn from the experience. I am a person who likes to dig deep, maybe too deep at times. Lol. […]

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It can be said that when you look at life as everything having a reason, you can ask yourself why these life events happened, but when you look at life as everything having a purpose, you learn from the experience.

I am a person who likes to dig deep, maybe too deep at times. Lol. As I look back on my timeline (and I encourage you to look back on yours) I know that every life event has had a purpose for me. I wouldn’t change anything if you paid me.

That debilitating anxiety and depression that I had in my early adulthood, as excruciating as it was at times, had a purpose!  When I look back I remember looking in the mirror, not even knowing who I was. I couldn’t watch tv because every act of violence, every gunshot caused me to jump out of my shoes. I remember looking out my living room window knowing I didn’t have the courage to go outside. Clearly I wasn’t myself and my thoughts were focused on what others would think of me. I was this strong person that fell like she fell to her knees, not knowing how to get back up.

So what was the purpose here? It was to tell me that I was living a life that wasn’t mine. It got me out of a relationship that clearly wasn’t serving me. It taught me that I could stand on my own (even though I knew I had the capability to do that). It allowed me to walk away and start a new life for myself, one filled with confidence and freedom.

Then again, heartache hit when I lost my mother to ovarian cancer and gave birth to my daughter within 3 days. I was in a state of grief induced post-partum depression that I never thought I would come out of. How could this be happening to me again? I was in such a state of fear, not knowing whether to grieve for my mother or love my newborn. I literally had to “practice” putting my daughter in the car seat and placing her in the car until I was able to finally get to a place where I was able to drive her around the block. My husband thought he would never get his wife back and I thought I would never get my life back, but I did. I got it back even better after a years’ time!

You must be thinking to yourself, what could be the purpose here? There was a very profound one. It taught me to have gratitude for what I have and to turn all of my negative life experiences into positive ones. As a result, I became an awesome mom, had another child (I never thought I could do that after this experience), I became an avid fundraiser for women’s cancers and I started to find my own purpose!

Next up, many years later my breast cancer diagnosis. Really, a purpose in this??? Yes, almost immediately it caused me to look within and take a look once again at how I was living my life. It helped me take a 360 view on life and remove a lot of the stressors in my life and replace them with fulfillment, fun and enjoyment and it lead me to becoming a life coach with a niche in working with survivors and caregivers.

I could literally look back on every event in my life and find my purpose. Every twist, every turn, every time I fell down – up until this day – I pick myself up and I find my purpose.

So I encourage you to take action now! Take a journal out and look back at your own timeline. Write it all out! Now, don’t look back and ask yourself “why” these life events happened, ask yourself what you have learned along the way and become a better person because of these life experiences. I promise you will find beauty in all of it.

And…if you need help finding your purpose, reach out to me at gina@newbeginningswithgina.com or go to my website and fill out a contact form to schedule a complimentary coaching session – www.newbeginningswithgina.com. Hope to see you soon and help you find your purpose. Xo Gina

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